One of the biggest influencers in my personal development journey is Tony Robbins. If you haven’t heard of Tony Robbins before, he is a coach that has done transformative work in psychology, business, and humanity as a whole. I have personally been to three of his events and have listened to many podcasts and videos. One thing he points out in his work is the “quality of your relationships depends on the quality of your communication.”
This quote has always stuck out to me. Especially in my struggles in relationships from my mother, my siblings that I don’t communicate with, and a failed engagement this quote has always pointed the finger back to me on how I could have done better. That’s a hard reality pill to swallow. So often we want to point out the reasons it’s the other person’s fault, but this was a gentle reminder that every bit of communication has two sides. I never knew how much it impacted me until I attended Date with Destiny, Tony’s main personal development seminar. This is where I realized the next steps to expand and apply that quote to my life. It all started with this, “if you want to change your communication, ask better questions.”
Take a moment to reflect on your communication in your relationships. Whether with yourself, your family, your partner, your kids, your coworkers - the list of possibilities is endless. Are you really asking great questions? Or are your questions keeping you from really, truly connecting?
After hearing and applying this principle, things changed in my life. Here are a few core components to improve the questions you are asking yourself and others in order to improve your life.
Try this out when you’re forming questions to grow in your relationships.